4 Things You Need To Do To Stop A Breakup

What Can Be Done To Stop A Breakup

Falling in love does come with a downside; painful breakups happen when relationships go bad. Often the first steps to stopping a break up include things NOT to do as well as things you NEED to do. First, we’ll glance at some of the things you need to do, then we’ll look at some of the things to avoid if at all possible.

Steps To Take To Stop A Breakup:

Use the Three Cs: Calmness, Coolness, and Collectedness

If you are honest with yourself, you probably knew a breakup was coming, and can take some time to prepare yourself mentally, however, if for some reason this does happen to hit you by surprise, you need to do everything in your power to remain calm, cool and collected. Clearly, you don't want to leave someone with the idea that you can't control your anger or your emotions. This is only the first pass and reconciliation can occur anytime in the near future.

Help Them Get What They Want

You'll find that many of life's best things come from helping others. The best course of action when a breakup is imminent, rather than attempting to stop it, is to be considerate towards the other party and allow them to achieve what they desire. While this may sound counterintuitive, stop for a minute and think about how this will go. Quietly affirm that a breakup is the best course of action, and that you feel that it will be a positive thing for both of you. Although you're feeling let down and sad, it's true, this is still the best thing to have happen. The other individual will start to consider why you even thought breaking up was the right thing to do. It's something people are likely to do.

A great Relationship Guru, T W Jackson, goes into more detail in his best selling ebook the Magic of Making Up. This resource has many positive tips, including some solid hints about stopping a break up and winning back your former partner. If you can’t wait and have an urgent need for this resource, you can check it out here: Stop The Split

Behaviors To Avoid To Stop A Breakup:

Harrassing Phone Calls or Emails

It doesn't matter how you found out that this individual wants to end the relationship, stop text messaging. You know what I am talking about, the messages that constantly want to know why or a total confession of true, everlasting love. Those messages to the parents, the friends, the roommate, the relatives trying to rally support behind your case to keep that person involved with you. These actions are terrorism, and the result will probably be a trip to see the judge, followed by a restraining order. This will not stop a breakup, but only confirm that they should have gotten out a long time ago. And be clear, their family isn't trying to fix the relationship, but wondering what they ever saw in you at all.

Drunk Dialing

This is another term coined by the great relationship guru T W Jackson who has a best selling ebook “The Magic of Making Up”. We're all aware of it and at some point or another have taken part in it. You attempt to get out and get your mind off things and before you know it, you have had one too many drinks and are starting to drool. Now that you have your liquid courage, you in all your brilliance think: NOW is the time to call and back her win! No, no, NO! You will only make a fool of yourself, and convince that other person they need to get an unlisted phone number.

Although these ideas were written from a humorous standpoint, they hold some truth. If you have fallen victim to any of the Things NOT To Do, and missed all The Things to DO, do not fret. Assistance is available, and solutions can be found. You should have a look at the copy of The Magic Of Making Up: Stop The Split

Often, a breakup is a sad and hurtful experience, because deep and heartfelt emotions are involved. Therefore, it is extremely important to get the help and support you need to help stop a breakup, and get you through this trying time. Time really does heal all wounds of the heart, and I will be sending you blessings.

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